Elena, mother of Veronica and Francesco, is famous over the Internet as the founder of PeriodoFertile.it, which focuses on fertility, conception and pregnancy and is one of the most popular Italian online magazines and communities. This successful project stems from painful experience, which may be the reason why Elena, delicately and with competence, knew how to satisfy the need to share and have information that we feel so many times in our lives.

You have probably already visited her website, but are you familiar with her five tips on how to survive pregnancy and motherhood? Here they are!

1. Do not underestimate
the power of maternal instinct and the strength of the unconditional love that binds a mother to her child. Being a mother is not easy but it is the most beautiful experience a woman can wish for.

I receive hundreds of letters from pregnant women who are afraid they will not be able to deal with a baby. I think that being afraid of not coping is a feeling we all shared during the nine months of pregnancy. This fear usually vanishes as soon as we look into the eyes of our little one.

2. Do not overestimate
unsolicited advice and your strength. When you have a baby, especially the first, everybody is at the starting line ready to give you opinions, advice and sometimes even disapprove.
Non-constructive criticism is to be ignored, advice and opinions should be welcomed with ‘thank you’, but ultimately the last word is yours.

You should never overestimate the strength of your body – learn to listen to the alarm bells of exhaustion. Sleep when the baby sleeps, turn a blind eye on what needs to be cleaned and find a part of the day for “me time”.

3. If you need help
Ask, call, share, let off steam and confide in somebody. Never be afraid to ask for advice. Talking to other mums is very useful and a great way to make good friends. This happens every day on my website. Do not be ashamed to say that you can’t do it. It can happen – we’ve all been through it. Ask your partner, mother (even your mother-in law if necessary) for help.

4. You won’t manage without…
Contact with your child and don’t be afraid to spoil him! Cuddles are the cure for all your baby’s problems and for you as well.

5. My motto for when you are desperate
Life carries on in one way or another, you’ll get over this and tomorrow will be another day, certainly better than this one.